During the weekend, my family and I visited our cousins in Wales since we haven’t been there in AGES. Note that they are my first cousins (mums side of the family) and my cousins are all married so their kids are like.. my nieces and nephews I guess o.o But yeah, they’re aged between 5-10 and when it came to my brother, boy did they have a lot of questions to ask.
“Why doesn’t he talk?”
“Why isn’t he listening to me?”
“Can he hear me?”
I don’t get asked these questions by people my own age or older because they generally have an idea of what autism is. But when your young and all innocent, you just can’t help but ask the obvious question. Answering simply doesn’t always solve this case because they’ll always ask ‘why’ afterwards. And I have no idea how to respond to those questions that would make sense to them. I am in no way saying that I am ashamed to talk about my brothers autism, but I have no idea how to speak to younger kids about it. How would you explain Autism to young children?
I’ve contemplated many ways to say this such as:
“My brother can hear you, he doesn’t talk because he doesn’t know how to yet but he will later”
But then I think, what if ‘later’ I meet them again and they ask why he doesn’t talk yet. Is it then when I say that ‘He doesn’t like to talk?’ Or do I explain that he has Autism? I feel the need to nail these answers so I’m prepared the next time I get asked. Its hard because you want them to understand but at the end of the day, their just kids and maybe it’s best to just give the most plainest, and the most simple answer.
*sorry for not posting, been busy with A Levels! It will most likely get really hectic from here on but I will try my best to post when I can 🙂
Is currently my baby brothers favourite game.
-A bed with a duvet.
So we have my older brothers old bed downstairs in one of the spare rooms because we plan on throwing it out (not sure out to exactly o.o) My brother would just suddenly disappear and the first place we’d look is the spare room. I remember once when I went into the spare room to look for my brother the first thing I noticed was something moving under the duvets at quite a fast pace. Before I knew it, my brother popped his head out the end of the duvet giggling with joy! It was really cute! 🙂 And it also reminded me of a game me and my older brother used to play when we were really young and it was called ‘Dig a Hole’. Funnily enough, it was exactly the same game as my baby brother just discovered.
You guys should try it. It’s a really fun game and a great way to kill time! (Though it’s more fun when your below the age of 6 and way below 5ft.
In other news, my brothers starting school soon! He’s going to be starting a new school and going to be there for like 7 hours! We’re all nervous. Just the normal ‘is he going to settle in?’ is clouding over our minds. Also thoughts like ‘is he willing to try new foods?’, ‘will his communication improve?’, ‘will the staff be cooperative and supportive just like the staff at his nursery?’
2 members of staff came to our house today to just speak to us about the basics of starting school and stuff. They talked us through a lot of things and they seemed really lovely c: Some of the things we discussed were putting my brother on school dinners. This is so that my brother could try and experience different types of foods. But being the picky eater that he is, we are packing weetabix in his bag. If this fails then he’s probably going to have to come home for lunch.
For me, I guess one of the concerns I have is whether he’ll be able to settle in with his new school just like he settled in his nursery. I’m hoping he does because once he does settle in, he just really enjoys actually going to school and then coming back 🙂 Bit I guess we’ll just have to wait and see.